Choosing a New Relationship Partner

You may know some of these already, but have forgotten, or forget to use them when needed. These are not rules, they are just ideas to help you in new relationships. With these tips you can be on the fast track to finding the right kind of love in no time!

Even if you haven't dated for a while, when you do meet someone new, keep your options open. Don't discourage them or lie, and don't let your new partner assume you have become a couple just because you like each other and have gone out a couple of times. Use your insight to see how your new partner behaves when he feels there may be competition, or uncertainty. It is also useful to catch up with other guys to make comparisons. Anyone can be fascinating if you really focus on them, but don't let fascination trick you into a relationship.

Take your time to judge, and don't trust him straightaway either. Find out more about him. Take your time and you'll learn whether you are reacting to your own expectations or unconscious projections. You will probably discover that some things you used to think important about others don't matter so much anymore. Keep in touch with yourself to find out how your tastes change.

Be honest up to a point at the beginning. Although less painful in the end than lying, don't try to be totally honest about everything all at once. It is too overwhelming to relate, or have to listen to a whole life story at one sitting. It is too easy to get carried away, and sound more like you are doing a huge mind dump on someone than getting to know them. Don't allow your ego to take over when laying the ground rules. The more aggressive you are in stating your boundaries, the greater the risk of attracting someone who sees you as a challenge, and little more. Too much ego will discourage the self-respecting types who are looking for a relationship, and they will put you in the too hard basket. Like attracts like, so keep it fun!

 

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